Hi . I have got quite a bit of knowledge around it all. Through lived experience, research through podcasts ,some jobs around mental health support and allsorts (Can you tell I had self advocacy coaching) (but still cringing at myself)
Anyway some things I say are repeated from what ive heard from others or some I just pure made up. But here goes. (Cring alert).
Well done to you all for getting this far. Whether you knew about it all or knew something wasn't right or normal or you just got told you were neurodiverse or think it. I did about 40 years riding a train on my own at 100mph everyone watching me go by I feel like every carriage was a chapter in my life . Anyway I feel like when it clicked that I was just... "bloomin brilliant" ! I felt like I.d reached the drivers cabin and seen all the controls .... but .... there are 100s of controls ! It's overwhelming !
This was a while ago now and I think now I have learned some of the controls ...they are still there they arent going away but knowing one or two feels like I have at least SOME control. I feel like I can look for the warning lights on the controls even this can be helpful.
Anyway if you are still reading this I could go on but i feel like you are seeing your controls and that in itself feels good.
Well done to anyone's partners because they must love you the way you are . They probably dont know how they do support you but telling them the good things they do and just laughing about things I feel is a good way .
My first podcast was the adhd adults their humour and knowledge around it is brilliant.
Alex Partridge from adhd chatter is brilliant it is very women biased but hey Ive learned alot about neurodiversity and women and it has helped my relationship...in fact my wife LOVES an information dump about what Karen Docherty has to say at 7am whilst getting everyone ready for school !
Also
@Michaela the air mask idea/theory was something I heard. It is like whenbyou are in an aeroplane and they say if you are gonna crash make sure you put your mask on before anyone else's even your kids because if you dont and you faint with lack of oxygen you arent gonna help anybody ... put the mask on first . Look after yourself before youll be good enough to help others.
Another good one to think about is my bucket theory . We all carry a bucket around with us ...it has a few holes in but we sometimes have enough in our bucket to fill other people's buckets. In fact filling theirs may even make yours fuller . But sometimes we can waste time emptying ours to fill others who tip it out or move their bucket. We need to surround ourselves with people who want to fill our bucket . In a perfect world we.d all have enough in our buckets but sometimes we need a little help from ourselves or others to fill those holes up a bit .
Anyway have a good day sorry for the essay.
Dc666
