Being taken seriously by family/friends after an autism diagnosis

IrishInManchesterUK

IrishInManchesterUK

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I wonder has anyone found this - after an autism diagnosis, any viewpoint or opinion that you express on any issue is automatically dismissed, ignored and invalidated by reason of your autism diagnosis by friends and family by being told that “you don’t understand that you are wrong”
 
facts don’t matter to people whose minds are closed and who are in denial, in support of corrupt mindsets - the same facts coming from someone else would be accepted with no issue, but because it comes from myself, who is regarded as too opinionated, too vocal, dysfunctional “tallest tulip syndrome” it’s simply dismissed as babble and as nonsense, in an Irish Catholic cultural context and misuse of the Church’s social teachings - I’m really beginning to wonder what their real “encouragement” to go for diagnosis was in 2019 was really about, because all I hear when I express an opinion or viewpoint on any issue is “cop yourself on, cop on to yourself” - “you need to stop forming opinions on any issues” “you don’t have any right to make any comments on any issues, because on a “common sense” basis they are coming from a space of dysfunction” “you need to learn common sense because you are wrong, because we say so, in our infinite wisdom”
 
I find this narrative very disturbing.
Famililies can be harsh and judgemental.
Your opinion is as valid as anyone else's.
My own son reacted badly to my triage confirmation of Level 1 autism (formerly known as Asperger's Syndrome) and I cannot escape the feeling that he found it personally threatening. In seeking answers to explain ourselves we often expose the fears of others.
 
Abwehr1944 said:
I find this narrative very disturbing.
Famililies can be harsh and judgemental.
Your opinion is as valid as anyone else's.
My own son reacted badly to my triage confirmation of Level 1 autism (formerly known as Asperger's Syndrome) and I cannot escape the feeling that he found it personally threatening. In seeking answers to explain ourselves we often expose the fears of others.
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I’ve also been told “you need to stop being so argumentative” regardless of the issue nor context and “you need to become more obedient and compliant” “stop ranting and grandstanding” - “Ill get the local Parish Priest, doctor, headmaster, police sergeant, etc, to “come and have a little “talk” to you” as I can’t get any good out of you” - many family members firmly believe and maintain that my autism was caused by lack of sufficiently strict and harsh childhood upbringing, military style parental discipline and not enough childhood corporal punishment and I had a similar reaction in my teens in the 1980’s when I first came out as gay, already considered in Catholic Ireland of that time as a mental health issue in my particular case, which triggered the attention of the local parish priest, doctor and police sergeant where I was told in no uncertain terms “you are not well, do you understand? Do you understand English?” “You are to do certain things and I will be watching you, to make sure that it’s carried out, or else….”