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<blockquote data-quote="Hilde" data-source="post: 3249" data-attributes="member: 1509">Hello,I am new here.I have 2 sons both autistic, one diagnosed at 4, the other at 24. I have recently been diagnosed as Asperger's and my husband too. I really relate to the every day struggles. Ours was complicated by one son not being diagnosed (because of his strengths apparently). When they were toddlers we didn't know that we (as parents) were also autistic, although I suspected my husband was. For me, the hardest part was lack of sleep. I seem to need more sleep than anyone else in my family. I also think I tried to persuade my husband to my point of view (I have a nursing background). I didn't realise that this just made my husband dig his heels in more. Perhaps its a female Aspie thing. Thinking that talking is the solution. My poor husband felt I was talking at him.I also struggled to remember things.Be kind to yourself. I also know that my eldest was seen as being &quot;badly behaved&quot;. That lens doesn't help.Life is exhausting so try to connect with someone who makes you feel good about yourself and gets your family.</blockquote>

[QUOTE="Hilde, post: 3249, member: 1509"] Hello, I am new here. I have 2 sons both autistic, one diagnosed at 4, the other at 24. I have recently been diagnosed as Asperger's and my husband too. I really relate to the every day struggles. Ours was complicated by one son not being diagnosed (because of his strengths apparently). When they were toddlers we didn't know that we (as parents) were also autistic, although I suspected my husband was. For me, the hardest part was lack of sleep. I seem to need more sleep than anyone else in my family. I also think I tried to persuade my husband to my point of view (I have a nursing background). I didn't realise that this just made my husband dig his heels in more. Perhaps its a female Aspie thing. Thinking that talking is the solution. My poor husband felt I was talking at him. I also struggled to remember things. Be kind to yourself. I also know that my eldest was seen as being "badly behaved". That lens doesn't help. Life is exhausting so try to connect with someone who makes you feel good about yourself and gets your family. [/QUOTE]

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