The best dating sites for autistic people?
- Thread starter sstiel
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Thanks. Is that a U.S based app? British members on it?
I tried one app called Hinge. I thought I knew better; however I didn't. I spent a stupid amount of money on it.
Loubie
Active member
I am just on Bumble. But I've tried a few others. I think theyre all the same. I like Bumble as it has an option for people to select 3 causes and one of them is ND.
But really the keys to dating app success (after a lot of failures and mistakes made plus coaching to help me make it better) for me has been using these tips:
Knowing what you want and what you don't, what are absolutely musts vs nice to haves.
Being very intentional and selective in who you swipe yes to - very few people should and will meet your vision but this is about a focus on quality>quantity.
Focus on are they a good fit for yourself. Don't worry about what they think of you, let them figure that out for themselves, and remain authentic and regulated no matter how keen you are.
Then discern who is compatible with you as you chat/meet and step away if they show you something that makes you feel fundamentally misaligned in some way - this may be energetic, values, lifestyle, etc.
And don't sit swiping all the time or match loads of people - it's a trap for overwhelm, overstimulation and losing your discernment. I have no more than 2 or 3 active chats, but if after a 3 or 4 days I feel no desire to meet or have no feeling of connection building, I wish them well and move on.
I went from overwhelm, disconnection and low quality matches to meeting someone who was a very good fit for me using a lot less of my capacity.
But really the keys to dating app success (after a lot of failures and mistakes made plus coaching to help me make it better) for me has been using these tips:
Knowing what you want and what you don't, what are absolutely musts vs nice to haves.
Being very intentional and selective in who you swipe yes to - very few people should and will meet your vision but this is about a focus on quality>quantity.
Focus on are they a good fit for yourself. Don't worry about what they think of you, let them figure that out for themselves, and remain authentic and regulated no matter how keen you are.
Then discern who is compatible with you as you chat/meet and step away if they show you something that makes you feel fundamentally misaligned in some way - this may be energetic, values, lifestyle, etc.
And don't sit swiping all the time or match loads of people - it's a trap for overwhelm, overstimulation and losing your discernment. I have no more than 2 or 3 active chats, but if after a 3 or 4 days I feel no desire to meet or have no feeling of connection building, I wish them well and move on.
I went from overwhelm, disconnection and low quality matches to meeting someone who was a very good fit for me using a lot less of my capacity.
NDFriends is a good app for autism dating and neurodivergent dating if you want something calmer than mainstream dating apps.
I’ve found that a lot of main dating apps like bumble or tinder can feel too fast, with too much swiping, small talk, and pressure to reply quickly. For autistic people, ADHD people, and other neurodivergent adults, it helps when an app feels more direct, slower-paced, and focused on real connection.
NDFriends is made for neurodivergent friendships, dating, and community, so it may be worth trying alongside apps like Hiki or Bumble. I’d still say the most important thing is to be clear about what you want, keep chats manageable, and avoid apps that leave you feeling drained.
I’ve found that a lot of main dating apps like bumble or tinder can feel too fast, with too much swiping, small talk, and pressure to reply quickly. For autistic people, ADHD people, and other neurodivergent adults, it helps when an app feels more direct, slower-paced, and focused on real connection.
NDFriends is made for neurodivergent friendships, dating, and community, so it may be worth trying alongside apps like Hiki or Bumble. I’d still say the most important thing is to be clear about what you want, keep chats manageable, and avoid apps that leave you feeling drained.
IjebuQueen
New member
I have been on the Facebook dating app for about 2+ year now. It is free and you give up only as much personal information as you want to. I do feel a lot more in control there than most other sites
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