Hi - congratulations on your diagnosis - in itself it can feel validating. You are in the right place to start. Lots of resources, lots of voices, different experiences.
Finding a way towards self-compassion is definitely important and understanding yourself more is a key way to do that. You are not on your own now in trying to find the strategies that might help.
The changes will come gradually and naturally I am sure. After diagnosis for me it was a process of noticing things more - my sensory issues, the things that drained me, the challenges I faced in so many areas that previously i had ignored or pushed through at great expense to myself. So the first step is definitely beginning to notice and listen to yourself more and understanding the triggers for your anxiety etc. It can feel like a light bulb moment, a dawning realisation there isn't something wrong with you for not being able to do what other people possibly find so easy - it becomes explainable and knowable and from there you can experiment with things that may help and support you.
It’s interesting how understanding builds gradually, almost like uncovering layers in something like
Booming Games Booming Seven Deluxe Legacy. What you describe about self-compassion and triggers feels like a strong foundation to build on.